A favorite topic of mine; Have you given thought to how powerful your words can be to someone else? How others can take/use your words to hear what they need. That one I have learned humor with forgiveness to observe-it once angered me. I have learned how when we speak those listening have so many ways to choose to hear, their life experiences to drawn on add so much at times. I am befuddled that anyone really know what anyone is truly saying most the time, LIFE!!!

Choice is such a huge word, to experience forgiveness instead of hate. Gratitude in place of self-suffering, Disappointment instead of anger. Self-acceptance instead of fears. Trust instead of jealousy. Love instead of pain and so many more all in just a matter of your own choice. CHOICE is still so huge with such a simple sound as it is spoken. Then the responsibility for that choice -ugh so much when we choose…

Then INTENTION is another powerful word I learned later in life as most of the words.

BELIEVE is a most powerful word as what you believe is what is real to you in all thoughts, the amazing experience you will have as you learn this to be true, I found.

2022 I have noticed that when there is a prescription to sell, words- symptoms are created like A.D.D., and others as depression. I find it interesting that no one is ok to be sad anymore without being labeled depressed and in need of a prescription. Sadness is a balance to Happiness and I believe a part of life at times, but not to live.

8.24.22 Geeze, some blogger I am been some time since I wrote here. Here’s a good one. Soo I say to myself ” I do not hold on to my past, but I love my memories.” Then, I think hows that work, said smiling. Maybe said this way, “I believe it is best to not live in my past, but I do enjoy my memories”. WORDS!!!!, crazy how they work. maybe it is reminiscing 🙂


8-22 read this today and it says it so well.  So fun when I read something that explains my own thoughts,  I have found all to be very true, be kind to you and those around you…

Elevate Your Language, by Daily OM
Choose to be more conscious, putting to rest words and phrases that are outmoded, insensitive, or harmful.
There are many troubling phrases in our language that we use without considering their full meaning simply because they have been accepted into common use. Even as our ideals progress, our language maintains some phrases from our past that no longer serve us, for example, boys don’t cry, boys will be boys, good child, problem child, illegitimate child, and many more. While these phrases may be used without harmful intent, they are inherently negative. Children can be especially sensitive to such phrases, which may stay with them their whole lives, adversely affecting their self-image and wounding their self-esteem. We can create positive change by choosing not to use these words and phrases.
It is challenging to examine our habits in terms of the words we use to express ourselves, but it is also exciting. Language is an area where we can exercise our free will, creating positive change in the world around us by carefully choosing the words we use. It may seem like a small thing, but our words have a rippling effect, like a stone thrown in a pond. People naturally pick up on the way other people speak, consciously or unconsciously changing the way they speak in response. We don’t need to actively try to influence people; it happens without even thinking about it. All we have to do is choose to be more conscious, putting to rest words and phrases that are outmoded, insensitive, or harmful. We can also exercise our creativity by creating new phrases that carry positive and loving energy to replace the old ones.
You may already have some ideas about phrases you’d like to transition out of your language, and now that you’re thinking about it, you may come across many more. As you consciously decide not to use these phrases, you may feel lighter and more joyful, knowing that you have chosen to drop baggage that was handed down to you from a less conscious time. As you do so, you elevate the language for future generations who would no doubt thank you if they could.


In many emotional therapies, one thing is common speaking out loud-hummm

Be kind when people have to tell you or express an opinion they have of you or something you say. Most often it is not about you it is about them, so let them keep their thoughts and words, just let it be said, let them hear themselves, you may be helping them.

This came to me today and says it well; by Daily OM; Our thoughts are powerful forces in the creation of our experience of life. You may be able to recall a time when frustration that was based on a misunderstanding completely evaporated when your understanding changed. This is because our interpretation defines our experience, and it can change in an instant. Our only true reality is the present moment, so rather than merely accepting that life is happening to us, we can harness the power of our thoughts to actively create a positive reality. For example, we can choose to appreciate the beauty around us rather than focusing on traffic or look for admirable qualities in the people we deal with rather than focusing on the negative. By choosing how to interpret and define each moment with your thoughts, you truly create your reality.

Throughout the day, we can monitor our thoughts to catch ourselves in the middle of investing our energy elsewhere — such as into belief in limitations — and instead pull our focus back to the infinite possibilities of the present. Taking a deep breath will help us center our thoughts on being in our bodies right now. Regular meditation allows us to gain mastery over our minds so that we can still our thoughts to focus on the pureness of being. If we mentally dwell on the past or the future, we may miss the experience of living in the present moment. Setting and visualizing goals is wonderful, but we can bring our thoughts into our current experience by taking steps to create them now.

Our minds are powerful tools that we can harness to create our reality. Through them, we move the unformed energy of the universe into form, which gives us direction for our words and actions. Each thought is like a stone dropped into a lake, sending ripples out into our world to affect all they touch. We can choose our focus and how we invest our energy, which gives us the power to design our lives to be whatever we choose in each and every moment.


A fine example…







A link of words I enjoyed The lost words

9/17/20 Optimistic, Empathy On a short drive today I thought to myself “I am in my sixties, I am an optimistic person” with the empathy to feel your emotions when you tell your stories. Sheryl and Peggy by besties so loved me for that, I loved their love. Two simple yet powerful words optimistic n empathy.  I never really met or even cared to know of them, I was happy not to be labeled by a word-interesting what we can think. I want to say shocking but it could be misinterpreted a bit too strongly. It was definitely a very memorable moment when I realized back in the mid 90’s. When I tell most people my story that they can not grasp onto the emotions I felt or am feeling as I speak. That all my life till this moment I speak of, I felt they were sharing my excitement that I was sharing with them. It is not true. Many do not feel from you as you can from them-what a life-viewing change that was!

Reflection Quote (the throwing back by a body or surface of light, heat, or sound without absorbing it.
“the reflection of light” ) or the one I find most interesting it when someone in their own head decides thoughts or interprets actions of another supporting their own need of thoughts. Often assuming while supporting their own fears.  Real to them but not really true to the moments.

Attunement is the reactiveness we have toward another person. It is the process by which we form relationships. Dr. Dan Siegel says, “When we attune with others we allow our own internal state to shift, to come to resonate with the inner world of another.

Self-awareness a link to understand

www.psychologytoday.com › basics › assertiveness
Assertiveness is a social skill that relies heavily on effective communication while simultaneously respecting the thoughts and wishes of others. People who are assertive clearly and respectfully communicate their wants, needs, positions, and boundaries to others.

Synonyms offer us choices-https://www.lexico.com/synonym/good 

When I first read this page above the word commitment I found the words they used for “he” to sound much harsher than the words chosen for “her” in the examples. Is it just me I wonder. Then I was saddened to see a word affirmation listed last on the page.  Affirmation is something I feel all beings want and our society lacks, I thought all these years. I would always want an affirmation over any commitment, funny the power of words.

Commitment is a word I have found its use in life could be felt uncomfortable due to individual life experiences. On the other hand affirmations in my life experiences, I would have not associated with the word commitment yet I see now how it is. I have made a personal choice to increase my use of affirmations in my life to share with others. By doing this the world could use more kindness by us offering more affirmations, I must guess that I find pronouncement, attestation, and assurance are this page’s best examples that I see. I am surprised not to find recognition as this is how I have seen affirmation. your thoughts?

Recently I have found myself using the word ought in place of need-finding It feels less stressful if” I ought to get it done” as opposed to
“I need to get that done”. Definition of OUGHT (modal verb): saying what is the right or sensible thing; when you have reasons for believing something.

A good one came today Rejection to be seen as Redirection. I have always thought of rejection as it was giving you the opportunity for better things to come.

I woke this morning with a new theory that the word “reply” is a cause in our society for so much anger. Never before has “reply” been used in many daily lives and there to not reply giving out the feelings of rejection to others causing so much anger. What do you think ?

Someone says the other day that your body “fast” every day. I now think of my body starting the day after a night of fasting-honestly never thought of it that way before. It makes drinking water more attractive somehow.

I gave the words Perspective and perceiving to perception extra thought they are really powerful words. They are so influential. Huge choices, decisions, and responsibilities. To not assume or to recognize your personal experiences influence-WILD. Understand how others are using them.

2018 I focused on the word “intention” making sure of my intention before action, pretty interesting self-discovery.

From 1998 to now I have explored more into words than ever before. In 2000 I acquired my GED and in doing so I enjoyed the company of the best man ever my tutor and later much more. I think it was 2002 he gave to me my own lexicon a word that rolls out of my mouth with such excitement. He gave it to me for all those words I said incorrectly but he said they did not have to be wrong, but my own. I found some words to be so harsh to pronounce for something much more beautiful and he understood. He was amused and at times appreciated my uneducated views on many things. I love my Lexicon. A word in my lexicon is Yous, defined as you with others. It is a lazy thing. I shy away from conforming to specific words once I realized most words come from someone not so different than myself.

Sometimes lack of words…Ellipsis;  “…” I use often Implying you have more to say. Definition; This is a very particular kind of trailing off, and possibly the most annoying of all. It often implies that what needs to be said is so obvious to the (knowledgeable) writer that it should be obvious to the reader, too. This can backfire badly – at worst, it can appear smug or condescending.=this is copied from a web article selling a  writing skills book. In Social Media. I find you often leave a brief reply or comment, for me these brief words often could lead to a sometimes long conversation. At least I feel I have more to say when I use them but don’t unless I were to be asked. So I am (according to those who choose the opinion) overusing and annoying. Why this choice I find it sad. An example of someone bothered that another person is not doing as” they think they ought to”, opinions are so individual the ones that divide us I get an uncomfortable feeling about.

The word for today Compassion

2019 My math=words=interpitation=emotions=actions. Selfish When someone says, “You are being selfish,” there is no doubt that you have just been criticized. The message from your critic is clear: You are paying too much attention to your own wants, needs, and well-being, and not enough attention to others from Psychology Today. How did this happen? How did our Culture produce a society of such guilt? Grateful today that I recognize that “no” I am not selfish I am just making my own choice for me. From Psychology Today. I have both an optimistic and not-so-optimistic answer to that question. The optimistic answer is that critics of selfishness are talking only about bad selfishness, and when they urge us to “do for others” they really mean to do for others in ways that are beneficial and rewarding to them. Be the first to write your review of services rendered here in Sandpoint Blog. See website index

4/23/19 Words seem to be in my brain today. In the shower, I added to the word busy which I have practiced out of my use. Saying it is a word that includes in its description a void in your time, you’re not truly present when your busy or BUZY-my opinion.  I now use Productive feels good just to say.  For me, it feels very present in the moment. Then I received a nice email in regards to a book review. This was my reply to them, I appreciate reading that you truly listened and actually heard my words. Heartwarming as I hear this from very few most add their interpretation influenced by their life experiences or even ancestry. You know how the ole story in the ear passed around a circle and hear what you get? Here is what the person emailing me heard me say about their book-you might want to read “The Dragon God” by Earl Thor, This was my comments about the book.”When I was a teenager and did bible study I latched onto the bible saying I could worship from my closet or something similar. I felt just as Bill Miner did: seeing so many inconsistencies with my lack of trust in man to not miss interpret or add their personal perceptions as they wrote or rewrote editions. This is when I decided religion-church was not for me. I have always wanted a conversation with someone like Bill Miner.”

The word BLOG I do not like saying this word, in relation to communication. Communication deserves a word that feels elegant when said, my opinion. I ask why blog?!?!  


From DailyOM

The more conscious we become, the more we deepen our relationship to the words we choose to use.


Words carry energy and this gives language its power and its potential to heal or hurt. Most of us can remember a time that someone sent a word our way, and it stuck with us. It may have been the first time we received a truly accurate compliment or the time a friend or sibling called us a name, but either way, it stuck. This experience reminds us that what we say has weight and power and that being conscious means being aware of how we use words.

The more conscious we become, the more we deepen our relationship to the words we use so that we speak from a place of actually feeling what we are saying. We begin to recognize that words are not abstract, disconnected entities used only to convey meaning; they are powerful transmitters of feeling. For the next few days, you might want to practice noticing how the words you say and hear affect your body and your emotional state. Notice how the different communication styles of the people in your life make you feel. Also, watch closely to see how your own words come out and what effect they have on the people around you.

You may notice that when we speak quickly, without thinking, or rush to get our ideas across, our words don’t carry the same power as when we speak slowly and confidently, allowing those receiving our words time and space to take them in. When we carefully listen to others before we speak, our words have more integrity, and when we take time to center ourselves before speaking, we truly begin to harness the power of speech. Then our words can be intelligent messengers of healing and light, transmitting deep and positive feelings to those who receive them.

6. Avoid repeating their words in your head

Sometimes, we become obsessed with someone because something they once said burrowed into our minds. Unknowingly, we’ll repeat that line to ourselves for decades, completely forgetting the original source of the sentence. We repeat the line to ourselves until it becomes a part of our identity and life story. People hear us describe ourselves based on this one line someone once told us years ago. It’s a disaster. It’s normal for someone’s words to hurt us. But don’t let it burrow into your mind for years to come. Remember that you, too, have said hurtful things to others in the heat of the moment. There’s no need to internalize something hateful about ourselves, even if we think aspects of it are true. A hateful sentence doesn’t need to become your identity. People change and grow all the time. Grow from this too.


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